Hello everyone, I need some friendship advice so I hope you’ll use some of your time to read this post.
A dear friend of mine suddenly stopped talking to me. She lives in another city where she studies, so we can’t always meet, but we used to stay in touch and often message each other. Everything was going perfectly, our friendship was really strong and there were no problems. Then suddenly, one day, January 5 2022, she decided to stop answering my texts. I sent her a message asking “how are you?” but I never received a reply. Worried, I sent her the same text on Instagram a few days later: read, but no reply. I got truly anxious fearing that something had happened to her, until she posted a story on Instagram: she was perfectly fine. Then another story, and another one with other friends of hers. I realised she had decided to ignore me, to avoid me. Apparently she even blocked my stories on Instagram. It’s no use calling her because she never answers.
This situation is really making me suffer because I can’t understand why she broke our friendship. I really would like to know her reason. I mean, it’s been almost two months. I was thinking about writing to her again, saying that I won’t bother her anymore, but at least I’d like to know what happened because I’m really hurt. I cared a lot about her. But at the same time, I’m afraid she will ignore me again and I’ll look like an idiot. What do you suggest?
Soumi Mallick @soumi22
I think you should stop trying to talk to her, text her or try to contact her in anyway. She used to be your closest friend when you were together with her and sometimes distance makes people farther than the distance in itself. We always want to be happy and lively and so we choose things that doesn’t require our unnecessary time and compromises. I don’t think she values you friendship enough and that’s why she is behaving this way. Maybe she got closer to the people of the city in which she is staying and studying. I know it can be really upsetting but you can’t force your love and attention on people who doesn’t want it from you. I am sorry that you’re going through such rudeness of her behaviour and hope she realises where she’s going wrong and what she’s missing.
