Hello everyone, 

Hope you all are doing good!

I just wanted to share that I feel very rejected and hurt. I am through a breakup and breakups are tough. But it is tougher when you love each other but can't be with each other because if the external issues like family you are unable to fight against. And to be honest, he has changed my life in way I can't even explain. And what did I do? I just left him more hurt and vulnerable. I am disappointed at myself. I feel insecure and uncertain. My confidence and self worth is very low rn. I don't have friends I can share this with. So here I am just trying to convince myself that everything will be alright. 

Breakup

Should I call him? 😖

3am Thoughts

I was madly in love with guy X for over 3 years. He is a great guy. He had his own troubles but he always stayed loyal to me. And i always tried to support him in all of his problems. Though, we had fights as he couldn't make me his priority ever. 

Now, about a month ago i mey guy Y. We both are preparing for the same exam. He is also a great guy but i haven't met him physically but he does feel like a great guy.

About 20 days ago, i broke up with guy X. 

Things aren't that great with guy Y and i haven't met him but i do have little feelings for him. 

Yesterday, Guy Y send me this message 
      
"""" Listen i am going to say this for the last time and then it's all you
If you don't want to end it then you don't have to. Eventually you will get to become everything you want to be with me. Eventually you can love me also. Eventually you will really love the the person you are. This is not very complicated trust me. But if you really think that you can achieve those by leaving it's really your decision. You can do what's best for you. And trust me it's not the best for me ( you leaving)
I would have forced you to stay but not now. Having feelings for someone means to free people and to not bind them in chains
Reply to this message TODAY ONLY IF YOU WANT TO STAY 

OTHERWISE DONOT REPLY.!! """""""

Now, i am stuck between X and Y

I have been with X for 3 years, we are so comfortable with each other. And i don't want to break his heart because i still have feelings for X. Those feelings are not that strong but they are still stronger than what i have for Y. 

I know it is selfish of me for even discussing this. But, i really do need opinions. I can't break either of their hearts. 

Please help me.

All i know is that my family approves of X. And we actually are comfortable. And then there is this guy Y, haven't met him but i feel this connection to him. 

Help please.

Relationships

I have a guy friend that I like.
It is our freshman year in high school and we are both in the same class. The first day we had met, we had exchanged like 2-3 words at most, and at the end of the day near the school gate, he said “nice to meet you” to me. But in a really sweet voice. A voice that made me think that he had a crush on me. I didn’t think too much about it, but I really liked the idea of someone loving me. We talked to each other more and more every day, but he would stop talking to me every now and then. I didn’t talk to him to make up for it because I didn’t have the courage to. The thought of him not loving me really pierced my heart every time it crossed my mind. That is how much I became obsessed with him. I cried so much that week. One day in chemistry class he walked up to me and silently whispered in my ears “is there anything wrong?”. I missed him so much that the first thing to come out of my mouth was “why haven’t you been talking to me for a week?”.
His voice became so annoying I felt worse than before. Later that day, he came to me again and we talked more, I felt better after that. After that day, he has been talking to me at least once every day (mostly) and I don’t feel alone when I am with him. I love him so much I feel ashamed of myself. I can’t talk to him, but I feel sad when I don’t talk to him. In our last conversation he said his goal was to go to a school outside the country for junior and senior year. Next year they are going to change our classes. I have less than half a year to spend by his side and still, I can’t talk to him. I am afraid of losing him. What do I do?

Crush

I don't get wtf is wrong with him he just canceled our dye which was gonna happen after a long just because of his friend who was in trouble like not even a close friend it's like my feelings doesn't matter I wanted to be with him and was so excited to go but fuck him I m never  gonna go out with him again, maybe I am wrong because I am angry...but y should I be the one to understand the situation.

Boyfriend

I had met someone online and dated for more than a year. That person said me there is no surity of future but we will enjoy the journey together and I should not fear. I was shocked initially but he had convinced me. He use to say me I am the best thing ever happened to him. He use to want me throughout the day and use to be there with me. I had shared my private pictures. He started masturbating seeing me on video calls and asked me to do all the activities to make him feel that everything is happening in person. All these started happening on regular intervals and he use to see all the time on video calls and pictures. I thought it was all love. Suddenly after 1 year after coming so close mentally, emotionally and physically he wanted a breakup. He did not reply to my calls and texts. I had broken down completely. I use to have anxiety, panic attacks, cry a lot, loss of appetite, physical problems, physical illness, couldn't concentrate at work and just couldn't understand what is happening with me. He said he will never wish to talk to me because I don't hold any value because I cried infront of him, he wished he hadn't even met me, I am mad, fool, I will suffer a lot in life due to my emotions, why I am reacting this way, did he ask me to do everything, do I know the meaning of love, he doesn't feel for me. One day he shouted badly and said why I am calling or messaging him these will be the last call and he will block me straightway. I was shivering and crying on my rooftop badly. It has been more than 6 months but still I am not out of all these. I had talked with many people. I have pushed myself very hard to come out of all these. I feel like I have given up now. I feel I am mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted and that I don't have any energy left anymore for anything. I am not able to understand anything now how to make myself out of all these. I am literally tired and dead from inside. Please help.

Anxiety

Told him I am not well and he hasn't texted afterwards, it's been hours. 

Exhausted

Ok so um i have got like really strict parents so that means i am not allowed to date ok…anyway i dated my male bestf in jan 2021..
And my hard luck..i got busted due to that by my parents and a bad scene was created..so bcz of that i and my male bestf broke up and ever since then we have been bestfs again..(there were no feelings)…but my parents have a bad impression on him ever since so like they don’t allow me to go to a place where he ll be there..and always tell me to stay away from him..now my male bestf doesn’t like this at all..it hurts him alot hearing this from my parents..so today he asked me to speak to my parents..to allow me to hang out with him..or else he ll leave me🥲..there’s no way my parents are gonna agree for that..
What do i do:(🤕?

There is one guy, we have known each other for more than 2 years. We are more than friends but not in relationship. In the starting we were chill, everything was casual but slowly after knowing him more and the way he used to treat me... All these things made me start having feelings for him. I ignored my feelings and thought that these are just feelings this will go away bcz i had gotten out of a bad relationship recently so didn't wanna be emotionally involved with anyone. 
But after few months knowing him and spending time with him I started having feelings for him. And ultimately i told him. He also said he likes me but there is no future.
And now i started ignoring him. I try very hard but still sometimes i fail i ans his msg or calls and talk like nothing happened.
In my heart i really wanna this to work. I want a future with him. But it can not happen if he is also not on the same page.
And now there is some other girl came into his life and now he is so busy in talking to her and after that telling me all about this. 
Which makes my blood boil and heart ache.
He shares everything with me and tells me that i know him in and out. Which i think i do.
I don't wanna feel this way... Being replaced, being ignored, it crushes my confidence and self respect.
Sometimes i think why the hell do i like him.
I deserve better.
And sometimes i wish to be loved back.
I don't wanna feel this way. 
I wanna get over this feeling. I don't want my happiness and peace dependent on him.
I try to keep myself busy but it's him who is always in my mind.
Suggest me something.

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