Hello dear community
I wanted to share something strange happened to me today.
I am 30y female. After 10 years, I got to know from my classmate that he always liked me and loved me. He came up with a marriage proposal. He said he was waiting for the right time.
I liked him but not in love because we were from the same area.
He was eager to convince me that I was with the wrong guy 10 years ago. (I know that and broke up with him after 1year). But he kept nagging on that point that I did a huge mistake. He also said to me that he would have slapped me for not falling for the other guy.
I did not like this slapping thing I took it as a red flag but somehow I am also thinking may be I am being very harsh on just some words. May be he said it out of love only just for saying.
I know it must be difficult for him to see me with another man at that time and I understand that his emotions are pure, otherwise he would not have told me that he has always loved me after a decade…
Please suggest if I am wrong to turn him down?
Ujjwal @ujjwals
That recalling thing seems to go long with him. He will repeatedly bring you down for HIS personal past frustration, but not for your choices. If you are able to handle this you can go with him otherwise some year later a 3rd guy will blame you for last two choices.
Thank you so much for your support. I feel that I won’t be able to handle this.
Yes you are right about the choices … we always have to choose and yes not every decision you make is always right so we learn from it.
*not always right
Ujjwal @ujjwals
Yes normal human being make lot of mistakes in life and if someone is counting it for reminding than there’s no drop of love, it’s a big hatered in name of love.
Yes I agree with you. I felt so he was not paying attention to what I wanted to say. He kept on cutting my sentences that you don’t say anything I know everything. And everything he was saying was just rumors not complete truth. That broke my heart and I felt not heard.
Ujjwal @ujjwals
That’s a big red flag. These people who speak more and listen less are very annoying and irritating. I have one friend here like this, sometime i ask him to keep shut, sometime I avoid him. But there are also people who talk and speak balanced and some pro people listen like a dog and speak like an ant.
Thanks for your kind words and support. I feel much better now.
Its isnt wrong to turn down someone! Remember this always make choices that makes u happy! U should never ever regret things later. Whatever ur heart says listen to that. Tc.
Thank you soo much for your kind words. 😊
I will suggest you to spend some time with him and see if you’re vibe matches with that guy… And be aware because you may be scammed… Check if he genuinely loves you and will not use you…
Thank you for your advice.
Maybe you are wrong
Maha be
You should not bother him now :) be at your peace and let him be at his , dono ke liye acha hai
Thanks I would prefer this.
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Thanks a lot
Yup :)
I wish you understand what I’m trying to convey
Yes
Wish you luck
