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Hello all ,
so this is my first time using this site , so i really dont know but yes , so past couple of weeks i am feeling so low , demotivated, unproductive and what not. i just dont feel like doing anything , i just sit in my room all day all alone and at some point i started having breakdowns . i just dont feel like talking to anyone. i stay all alone for most of the time . i just dont know what to do , i feel like there is nothing left to do , i am going through a lot of things which no one knows , basically i dont have anyone to talk to , i keep all the things with me. i tried so hard to distract myself but not helping me in any ways . so if anyones there who would love to help that would be great .
thank you .

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anshdhsj

Hey,
I am always there to have a talk. I can understand what you are going through. I have been in similar situations before and it screws you up. But, just carrying on, and flowing, helps. Keep moving, and you will be over it one day.
You can also try introspection and figure out what is going on internally. that is the best way. That’s how I got my solution.

I’d love to talk to you more about it, if you’re willing to.

Also, I am building a peer support community on discord where I want to make it easy for people to connect with peers directly that can understand their pain and are willing to support them. I have found it tough to find someone to talk to, that can understand me, and if you too have faced something similar, I’d love for you to be a part of the community. https://discord.gg/z3njqA2mZX

Anonymous

hey thanks for your support i would like to talk to you here as your situation
was also same . i hope it will help me some way or the other

anshdhsj

Hey sure.
Do you want to talk here, or on some other platform? I might not be very active here

Hello! I can relate to how you feel. This is exactly how i used to feel a couple of days ago. Also, if you don’t feel like talking to people, or if there’s no one at all to listen to you, we’re always here to listen to you, and to make an attempt of helping you out. So if there’s anything that has been making you feel heavy lately, just vent it out here, because nobody would judge you.

Anonymous

HEY thanks a lot what you did when you used to feel the same . i am so tired of googling it how to deal with this and that .

Why don’t you feel like talking to people? Do they make you feel uncomfortable, or do they don’t care at all about what you’re going through, or do they love you so much, that you feel that telling them about your sentiments, emotions and thoughts might disturb them?

Anonymous

I feel like they don’t care and I don’t want to disturb them coz each and everyone is going through something but whenever I need someone there is no one .and I have only 2,3 friends but even I don’t open up with them I just say everything is fine and I put a smile on my face but I know how I feel about things .

I can’t open up to people around me about what I’m going through either, so I don’t have anything to say about that. But as of now, you can open up here. Also, you are right about the fact, that most people don’t care and it’s better not to speak to them.

Anonymous

Yeah but then I feel more lonely sometimes

See, I don’t know if sharing your thoughts virtually to strangers here would help you or not, but I’m sure it will male you feel better. I acn understand that sometimes we are too lonely, in fact, a large percentage of people are bound to be surrounded by innumerable people, but are still lonely. I don’t know how to help solve that problem, or how to wipe off loneliness, but I assure you that we’ll try our best to help you. We’re all ears, and want you know that you might be lonely, but you always have is to speak to.

Anonymous

Yes that’s why m trying this online thing .coz that’s the Option has left . So are you here to help people or even share your problems

I’m here to help and share.

Anonymous

Even you can share me your problems even I would love to help you

Thank you for lending a helpful hand.

Anonymous

Most welcome

g

Welcome to adulthood. 😁🤭

Anonymous

I feel the same everyday that hope someone is will have there to understand and listen to us , but it hurts as having no friends and everything

Anonymous

same here lets share and help each other what say

Anonymous

Yes only thing matters is someone who listens and understands us no matter what and listen to another side of story before judging you and know what happened , those are people needed

Anonymous

Yes same here and don’t worry here no one’s gonna judge you so you can share your thoughts here don’t worry

almighty

Hi, It can get dark sometimes, not having people to talk to, being alone for extended period of time. On top of that I read you went through a breakup as well. I would highly advise remove the person from your go-to list. Even looking at pictures will harm you mentally. For the distraction part, trust me- purposely doing that will not help at all. You have to do things instead of thinking at all times. Imagine you like painting(just imagine) and you have to create something outstanding in 1-2 day. Its for an exhibition…Will that be distracting yourself or will that be growing in yourself? This distinction needs to be understood first to help ourselves.

Anonymous

Hie , as I said he is my friend coz I have no one actually if I removed him I will be all alone and I went though a major depression and I don’t want to go back there. And I don’t have feelings for him it’s just a attachment but that is also very less . But yes I do care sometimes what he is doing n all . I mean it’s very difficult for me .

Anonymous

And I don’t have his pictures in my phone anymore. I think about itbut not much

almighty

Trust me, it might be overwhelming at the start but you have to stop considering him as a support system for time being. Just take some time off and reconnect with him after a while. Coming to having someone to prevent you from going back to the darkness,I’m sure there are people who’ll be more than happy to get a friend like you.

Anonymous

May be whatever you are saying it’s true . But m really afraid of things you know going back to same old days I mean the depression days it’s really hard . For me and yes I see him as my support system but technically he is not my support system if someone is not helping you not listening to.your problem that person can’t be your support system

almighty

Exactly, your rational mind already knows this. Its only in the middle of the night we crave for the intimacy we had in the past. Sometimes we miss the way our mornings used to be. We cling on to the hope that someday even for a moment, they’ll give their undivided attention to us so that we can finally pour our heart out.

Anonymous

Yes you really know this situation well . I mean you exactly know what actually going on for him in my mind

almighty

Haha, unfortunately a bit intimately. I do wish that you don’t have to go through this anymore than needed. But don’t allow this to be balled up inside , it may start eating and clouding every single thought from inside. You’re not alone in this.

Anonymous

Yes I will.try my best not to think about it and make distance .

And one more thing even you can share your problems with me .

almighty

Will be happy to. Maybe drop me a mail if you wish to connect. My email is in my profile’s about me. Happy to know that you’re moving towards better things in life.

Anonymous

Sure why not and thank you so much

almighty

Nice to speak with you!

Anonymous

same here 😀