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Heey!
So I am kind of in a lost space. To put it into perspective Let’s suppose I want to go to Canada for a holiday. I will start researching a lot about it , collect the resources , talk to people, prepare a schedule. But I will never go. I feel I need appreciation/ acknowledgment from others for the previous steps and that’s when I will take action. And just the fact that I need a THIRD PARTY to initiate action for me, makes me feel disabled and worsens my self-doubt.

Now I have read a lot about it and tried addressing this to a few friends. I understand and appreciate their efforts when they say “YOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELF”, “DON’T CARE ABOUT OTHERS” etc. But I’ve tried it and it doesn’t work for me.

I feel somewhere from within the issues lies:
1. Either I am chasing a destination I don’t actually want to (and I’m doing it because finding what I actually like requires a trial and error method and I somewhere deep in me don’t want to go through the down phase of it)

2. The only reason for my existence or for my NEED to do actions is appreciation from others, if I dont get it, I feel I’m doing something wrong.(this happens majority of the times, but in a few cases I do what I FEEL is right even when I’m alone)

So would love to hear about it from you guys

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k

Hi,
All humans need acceptance,appreciation n approval…
Eachone of us need all of this
But the extent to which we need it differs…

It is very challenging to not jump in bandwagon n instead listen to your heart…
To do what majority dnt do…
Or to not do what majority does…

In nutshell it takes guts to be DIFFERENT…

I would suggest you to take things very casually…
You pls stop analysing ur actions so deeply…

You are feeling lost
Because you are overthinking
Dissecting every move of urs…
Just try to go with flow…

Just try to listen to your heart…
Try to do things that give u happiness n peace
Please urself
Not others…

Because when we expect things from others we are at risk they may or maynot do it…

Just keep expectations from self…

If you want to go to Canada
Just go to Canada first
Why researching so much before going…
First focus on going…
Because if u sit to research u drain ur energy n get exhausted prior to action.

So first do action
Then subsequently work or think about other things…

Dnt do anything in any sort of pressure
When we do things in presurre of halfheartedly we need a push from others
We become passive in approach…

Just live in present…

I know it is easy for me to write…

More power to you…

Good luck
God bless…

Anonymous

Thank you soo much Kusum. Will try this for sure