Heey!
So I am kind of in a lost space. To put it into perspective Letās suppose I want to go to Canada for a holiday. I will start researching a lot about it , collect the resources , talk to people, prepare a schedule. But I will never go. I feel I need appreciation/ acknowledgment from others for the previous steps and thatās when I will take action. And just the fact that I need a THIRD PARTY to initiate action for me, makes me feel disabled and worsens my self-doubt.
Now I have read a lot about it and tried addressing this to a few friends. I understand and appreciate their efforts when they say āYOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELFā, āDONāT CARE ABOUT OTHERSā etc. But Iāve tried it and it doesnāt work for me.
I feel somewhere from within the issues lies:
1. Either I am chasing a destination I donāt actually want to (and Iām doing it because finding what I actually like requires a trial and error method and I somewhere deep in me donāt want to go through the down phase of it)
2. The only reason for my existence or for my NEED to do actions is appreciation from others, if I dont get it, I feel Iām doing something wrong.(this happens majority of the times, but in a few cases I do what I FEEL is right even when Iām alone)
So would love to hear about it from you guys
Hi,
All humans need acceptance,appreciation n approvalā¦
Eachone of us need all of this
But the extent to which we need it differsā¦
It is very challenging to not jump in bandwagon n instead listen to your heartā¦
To do what majority dnt doā¦
Or to not do what majority doesā¦
In nutshell it takes guts to be DIFFERENTā¦
I would suggest you to take things very casuallyā¦
You pls stop analysing ur actions so deeplyā¦
You are feeling lost
Because you are overthinking
Dissecting every move of ursā¦
Just try to go with flowā¦
Just try to listen to your heartā¦
Try to do things that give u happiness n peace
Please urself
Not othersā¦
Because when we expect things from others we are at risk they may or maynot do itā¦
Just keep expectations from selfā¦
If you want to go to Canada
Just go to Canada first
Why researching so much before goingā¦
First focus on goingā¦
Because if u sit to research u drain ur energy n get exhausted prior to action.
So first do action
Then subsequently work or think about other thingsā¦
Dnt do anything in any sort of pressure
When we do things in presurre of halfheartedly we need a push from others
We become passive in approachā¦
Just live in presentā¦
I know it is easy for me to writeā¦
More power to youā¦
Good luck
God blessā¦
Thank you soo much Kusum. Will try this for sure