he is not taking any move 😫 how long should I wait. Like cmon dude. We still talk but it’s super dry I know we both want this to work. But it’s really slow jeez

Harsh truth! He’s not really into this I guess.

Relationships

I think I can really never love anyone truly, and I think my parents relationship plays a major part in this. I dont like  to  believe love or marriages, friendship and forever stuff's. I believe that only you will be there for yourself and tats not really sad,I like it . I  mostly don't expect or depend on people . But there is this guy and he is my best friend and I really don't want to loose him, I haven't found anyone like him, I also don't want to do anything tat will ruin the best thing I ever have, like Im scared that I might shut him out with no clue .

Love

I am feeling so sad today. I am in a very bad situation. I can't do a help to my boyfriend bcz of my situation and now he started distancing himself from and that is killing me inside.Today he said he is ending this relationship and I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless. I am already having so many issues with my family. My only support was him. My friends betrayed me. I don't know what to do anymore. 

Depression

Every boy I ever had a talk with...they used to propose me within 6 or 7 days lol...idk like how can someone fall for someone else in this lil amount of time...whatever I never believed in them....our talking stage never lasted more than 3 months...but now I kinda no I actually like someone with whomI I've been talking since 11 or 12 months....but he never made a move never...sees me as a friend only...I guess sare ladkon ki bad dua lag rahi mujhe...damn I really like him 

Acquaintance

"when i feel unwanted i distance myself, I think everyone of us has done that to people we hold up on the pedestal, we think of them of being such a worthy people that we are ready to make ourselves lower for them at every moment, and when they don't see our efforts, we end up distancing ourselves from them.
This happened a while ago, I was in a relationship with this guy, I loved him and adored him a lot, I always made myself available for him, but any time I needed him he used to give some lame excuse, that is when I feel unwanted I distance myself from him. He never understood my situation, he always took it up as if I am blaming him for something, I never do that, I loved him so much to blame him for anything. One day we fought so much, I understood he was just passing time with me and did not really want anything from me, he was doing his play and then is when I broke up with him and now I feel much better.
But still, when I feel unwanted I distance myself from my family members, at times it might not be their fault, but because of my overthinking I do that and they suffer and I too suffer. Is it because of his behaviour towards me that I am becoming like this? I hate to do this to my family, but unintentionally I do it and it hurts my heart"

Mood Disorder

Iam 45 year female, i got married at the age of 17 with 40 years old person it was arranged marriage . After getting married he rarely was with me as i was too young i didn't know anything even sex he raped me on first night itself he told if u don't allow i will inform ur parents ,i never loved any person i started liking my husband but he never got attached 3 months he did sex with me later told i look like small girl , as i was kid he use to buy food and dresses and i was very happy with him he used to lock and go to offs and will comeback after 3 days like this 3 years went i started fighting with him so he joined me to hostel for further studies as i go then again fights later came to know tt married in 2nd puc,i studied and i got bank job posted in other state later on suppose ground i got transferred to my husband place. My in-laws started asking abt kids but we didn't had sex. I can't tell anyone so got IVF done and I got one baby life was going smoothly in all this times my husbands sister son helped me I was only daughter heand there was no much gap between us only 4years he wil call me aunty he supported me in carrier and all he was like my own brother son guide and everything .he encouraged me in carrier so I got promoted as manager .he was preparing for civils at the time despite of attempts he didn't got through so he want to start buisness i gave him loan later he want to start software company with his two friends I gave loan again though papers are not correct more over his dad is thasildar so in worst case he may pay like that days went through he got project of3 crores so he needed45lakhs i sanctioned loan on my own risk hoping that in advance he will repay full  amount.he gave bribe later it got cancelled so amount as gone his marriage fixed he changed totally and he told he can't repay i went to his parents and begged they asked with whose permission u gave loan but when he is running company they didn't know from where that amount came.bank inspection started and I am in trouble sleepless nights crying and all , everyone in bank are like I used that money and all I was very low under depression ,helpless thattime my officer  was there it was covid time he was bachelor I felt bad that he was not getting food from anywhere so asked him to come home and have food he told he can't come inside but will take tiffin.he is younger than me 12years .sohe used to come talk like this happened for 6months intake we used to talk10minus latee15and laater2 hours sometimes or4 hours also but only official mattersschool days or college or planning of branch as he was my marketing officer, he started helping me in household works my husband got retired and he shifted to Village and alone i was managing,dad expired and my mom used to take of my kid,i started sharing all my problems he supported so life was like little ok atleast someone is there to listen my problem v both started to neet executives and planning to solve how to solve my problem , one day he told he likes me nd he loves me he want to give me what and all I lost in my life he will keep me happy but until he will get transferred to his place ,swear on God i never had sex for12years and I didn't accepted him for sex,i want one person to share i wanted care, attention,love one shoulder when i told ok he wanted to have sex with me I was not prepared but was afride if I say no i will loose him also he started touching me on roads also so I only told better to book room so been there covid time my mother and daughter went to Village as her school was not there I was alone he started coming inside house it was most happiest days in my life he cared me loved me forr3 months almost live-in  my bank issues started increasing otheraide he also started changing for everything scolding using very bad words randi and all started beating me I can't tell anyone,bz it's external martial affair already I lost respect in bank now family but I love him a lot morethan my self sometimes morethan my daughter also sometimes he lovs me like anything sometimes he scolds and beats me .i used o think enough he will come and beg and will say without me he can't live later I will accept this happened for 2years he got transferred to his native i was very upset still i bought him Watever he wants and all i used to give him so many gifts also,he left me that day i cried a lot a lot but he was even not bothered he just left that day also at airport he scolded me that I didn't packed his luggage properly he is not bothered that he is going to leave me permanently he left.second day i called him he didn't spoke to me properly he started ignoring when I call and fight he is like c u fight that's y I don't feel like talking to you, initial days of relationship he told he has to get married once he got married he won't have physical relationship with me but he will be there for me for lifetime .i told ok neither I want to spoil his life, but now he is not ready to talk he didn't even asked how am I,he told he doesn't have time for me his family is priority iam nothing. I was there for him atleast for few days or monthm i thought he  will be normally talking suddenly i become alone totally helpless during that tough time bank fired me from work immediately i called him he told tum ghatiya ho that's y this happened I a totally helpless, still i thought he was angry on me so i went to his place to do course for my future i called him he abused me he told I am blackmailing him and all i begged him not to do like this he came to meet me one day thought all our sfights will be stopped once he saw me I just wanted one ending where I don't want to feel even he cheated me but there also he didn't spoke to me propy as v both met at metro so i only asked book room ,i want to talk to him fight with make him understand he booked v room we went there 15 minus he was wit did physical normally his anger used to comedown if he does physical i was wait now will talk peacefully but he told need to vacate room i was upset cried and started fighting he beated me kicked me,i came out of the room i feel like iamprostitue even with them people will spend more time.i lost everything in my life.now also I love him a lot he was only person who cared and loved me but i can't call him. My daughter what mistake she did .bank i gave loaan i did mistake so got punishment. But loving him he told I played sympathy card and i mused him as tissue paper iam ghatiya aurat i know how to play with people's.iam blackmailing him and all.i left him but daily I am dying i want to die  but I am worried abt my daughter now no income,no work nothing only depression no one is there my husband is giving some amount for maintenanast everything waiting to die


My parents are from u.p. and living in rajasthan from many years so I born and did schooling and college here. My bf is marwari.he has huge family like this is my grandfather's brother's son.and many other type of relations.in our family we don't talk to these relatives.and these marwari people just dont want to understand other cultures and even don't admit their own flaws.when my bf told his family about me and that my parents are from u.p. his family said that u.p. people are so cunning.his father already asked me via his sister that am i really want to marry him or just playing.I mean.. with my experience these marwari are more cunning. Sometimes i think that if i marry him will i be ever can adjust in them.

So, the last years I was in long-distance relationship. But the person is afraid of being committed and after 2 years without seeing each other in flesh decided to break up with me. We have been together for something like 4 years. At the same time he doesn't want to lose me and is asking me to wait, trust him and give him a chance. I don't know what all that means.
We both love each other a lot but the fact is that he is not ready for the commitments under being a couple (even though I almost don't ask anything from him) especially when now in covid we can't see each other.
The problem is that I know he doesn't really feel like being with anyone and he can exist by himself. On the other hand, I don't feel comfortable being alone. But I also tried to ge to know other people and the problem is that I don't feel them attractive. Maybe they are attractive physically, but I don't feel any good connection with anyone around. And now I'm afraid of ending up being alone and I don't know what to do. That's so sad. 

I talked to this man one time and now for some reason I’m obsessing over him. I don’t know why because I never do this with people I just meet nor do I know what to do about it because I’m scared to text him after I’ve already texted him once. What do you think I should do?

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