He cheated on me and I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t feel good. I feel it’s because i let my guard down and let him trample on me giving him all that he wants. Now i know there’s a limit. But I don’t know how to forget what he has done. I have forgiven him but i can’t forget and someone please help me with that. Help me forget it somehow or lessen the impact, because I can’t say this to anyone nor can I keep it in myself.
Zak Puckett @ztothephour
lessen the impact by settling it in at home with your thoughts, from there, you can know that you chose that yes, it happened, and yes, you’re okay with giving it more of yourtime because you believe him to not continue the behavior, as long as you are responsible with that bullet he gave you, he will remember you have it and have not used it. if you really want it to work, you can’t try to even the score, you can rightfully request certain things for a bit within reason, basically as much as his guilt allows. I’ve (never married) been in the situation and not proud to have cheated, it doesnt feeel good if we actually care, i promise we beat ourselves up and think less, compassion and not being naive about it is key. it will take time to rebuild trust. this has to be understood without bitterness.
I wish the pain would be lesser
Zak Puckett @ztothephour
of course, but 2 things to that:
1)completely reasonable, would be not smart to wish it more
2) pain, unfortunately, is how we realllly learn lessons, not just jpain but that side of the emotional feels, the more it stands out, simply just startling, we learn adaptively. thats why we dont touch hot stoves, its a biological thing, is what it is, we hurt when we get hungry so the body moves and finds food. we get uncomfortable when we’re cutting off circulation so we move our body… pain is good, suffering is in the mind. wisdom comes from learning lessons not being taught. if it were lesser pain, you may not be motivated to change.
Thank you so much for this
It means a lot
Zak Puckett @ztothephour
the more you learn, the eaier it is to land at these places on your own, thats a life skill that is better than a bandaid. dont neglect your emotions, but sometiems simple logic can narrow down your options on what to feel differentways about… you can find some that you are okay with, once you start figuring out who you wanna be. gotta find all you are not in order to know who you are. … figuratively… obviously…
Yes and i am willing to fight it through
Zak Puckett @ztothephour
okay, you got a solid answer for yourself if you ever feel inclined to question why are you fighting? for what? this is where many find themselves in trouble, it gets tough sometimes.
Mayank @true_who
If u feel like u waana vent out,share it u can connect with me.Atleast it will not burden u.
Thank you so much will keep in my mind
