Friendship is one of the best gift one can have through thick and thins,whatever we achieve we always want to show it to friends . it's really tough to get along with 3 people but it's worth.

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Tanya

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Friends

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” — Unknown


I am a very sensitive person from inner side. I had female best friend. We agreed that we will not get into relationship since we are good friends. I use to share my thoughts and problems with her. One day she told me that she needs space from me as i did a lot for me. She put the perception of how people think into our bond. Right now what should i do?

Breakup

I try to vent to my best friend and she instantly turns all of her attention to her boy friend...like im struggling and she doesn't seem tp care

Need suggestions!!
I had an argument with a very close friend of mine n it has upset us both.. n we both feel that the other one is wrong!! 
I'm unable to talk to her as I haven't been able to process everything till now! 
N she's really angry now!!

Anxiety

I had a dear friend. Let's call her T. T and I were friends from class 9th. We landed in the same section in class 10th. We turned into best friends. Used to sit at the same desk, call each other and talk for hours.. we were called "Jai and Veeru" by our teachers. We were always together. She had another friend who had a problem with me as before me she was her best friend and used to hang out with her. On learning this, T broke friendship with her and she said to me that I value u more than her. I was happy.I had a toxic family and tough parents. I had a bad record with friendship and most used to end within 1 year. I had this fear that everyone will leave me one day. but at that time, I forgot and thought that I got a soul-sister. 
Fast forward, in class 11 we were separated as we both had different subjects. our meetings lessened but was still there after school, lunch breaks and before classes. she stopped replying to my messages and calls. I understood as classes can be hectic. it was all good till then. in the 12th, she stopped going out for lunch too. she completely avoided me. no messages, no calls. she even refused our Sunday plans and talks. She had a new friend who used to live near her house. she started hanging out with her. One day in front of me she said "I only use WhatsApp for her!" I ignored or perhaps I didn't pay any attention to be concerned. after a lot of this, one day I confronted her that why the hell are u behaving like this, why are u ignoring me?? She said that "It is not you, you are still there in my friend category, u are still on the list, the only thing is that someone else I got is better and has a position higher than u in my life, she is my soulmate." I broke, I felt cheated. but eventually, I came to peace with that, I thought its ok, a friend is also not bad, her choice. 
Then one day, when she cancelled our plan again to hang out with her new friends, I became angry and confronted her on whatsapp, to which she said, "compare yourself to X(her new bff) you shall know where u exist and where she is". i don't remember all she said.... but that hurt me, that wound is still like a sore. After that we left school, barely talked once or twice and then out of touch... its 3.5 years since then, since we left class 12th and had our last talk. 
I miss her still, I can't get over her, you can get over a boyfriend but not a best friend. I still haven't got my closure... I still want to get answered that why were I left?? What was my mistake? Many friends left me like that but I am more concerned with T... am I bad as a human being... don't I have the qualities to be loved by family or friends?? These questions often eat my sleep at night and I cry in my pillow...
These are challenging Covid times, I am so desperate to call her and ask if she is ok, but her number although deleted from my phone is still in my diary. Whenever I open it I am haunted by those experiences, some ego or fear captures me, should I call?? Why didn't she call?? Does she miss me?? She must have a lot of college friends to ask na ?? I am so in conflict and confusion... 

2 and a half month since my best friend and I broke up sometimes I look at the way life goes you know we have been friends for 4 years and she forgotten me within 4 seconds she left me like a stranger and she changed so fast that I never got a chance to realise at first what kind of person she really is I have been depressed since 2 month crying almost every day but she is enjoying her life with her new gorgeous friend she doesn't care she was selfish she thinks it's soo normal to hurt someone she was like my sister I have been there in her saddest time of her life and she forgot everything even I msged her in 1st sep I forgot how she hurted me msging her was more like betraying myself cuz I cared about her and our friendship was important to me but she saw my msges and ignored me sometimes we can't take back things that we give like the care and effort we put together to make anyone happy we can't take it back 

Advice required: 
I've just come out of a 5 yr relationship but amicably so. Since the breakup I've been trying to keep her involved with everything but she seems to be trying to keep me out of stuff. EG if I'm seeing friends I'll make sure she's invited but she doesn't do the same for me. So now I feel like I'm losing friends. Maybe I should stop trying to involve her but my friends will think that's odd because they like her and know that we're still on good terms. I just feel like I'm in a position where no one's really on my side and people are taking her side over mine. Help

Best friend issues
So nowadays I feel really sad. My bestie ignored and lied to me before but I didnt make a big deal out of it but these days its getting outta hand. 
Today I asked her to play game with me online and she said she was busy she'll play later. Again I asked and she said I'll play after eating then she ignored me for sone time and then she said she cant play now. I was sad because I was waiting from 3 hours to play with her.
Sometimes I think I should not be her friend because she's a complete opposite of me ....I just feel like an outcast sometimes.
While joking also if she jokes and I say something she's like "You just need a reason to fight" and when I joke she says things like "Thats why no one wants to talk to you"" You have a bad habit of saying bad things to others" and these kind of sentences really hurt me.
Right now our relationship is very complicated. Some times I feel like never talking to her .....these days she really takes me for granted.
What should I do? If I talk to her she'll just say that I need a reason to fight and ignore me so what should I do ? I'm very confused.


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