Feeling lowā¦ Iām an internā¦ I was dating a girl for 4.5 years since i started my medical schoolā¦ But we brokeup during my final year examsā¦ It was traumatic for meā¦ But i eventually let go of that thought and trying to be normalā¦ I had a best friend of 5 years and in the end of my internship we started dating agreeing that we wouldnāt find anyone better and weāll taoe this risk coz we both had feelings for each other and as we knew for so many years it wouldnāt be a big deal for usā¦ But itās been months now and I donāt know why, but Iām feeling very insecure, the whole reason we started this was coz i felt this is the most secure person i could be with, but i donāt know why all of a sudden everything has changedā¦ Iām jealous of her doing good in the same career but me doing nothingā¦ And Iām scared if Iām becoming over possessive or obsessed with herā¦ Which i genuinely donāt want to beā¦ I trust her the most and sheās a genuine,ost loyal and humble person Iāve ever known and i know her very wellā¦ Yet, Iām feeling very jealous of her in her every move. And i donāt if this is because of the ex who gave me a very bad experience, who always gave me insecurity, who made wrong moves and always disappointed meā¦ Iām concerned whether Am I starting to behave like I used to with her! And Iām just lostā¦ Idk what to do, what not to do. Is this happening because of my traumatic past experience or is this me being possessive and obsessive for no reason at all and ruining what I have. Iām scared and everyday I end up not being normal or not being able to communicate properly because of these thoughts. Iām so lost. I think I need help.
As per me you should tell all these things to herā¦i know you must be thinking how will you say all these things to herā¦or what she will think of youā¦but people here including me can you give you advice according to the post you have writtenā¦but if you COMMUNICATE with her aboutt your insecurities, about the reason of your overthinking she will understand youā¦and you both can find a way to over itā¦so first thing is to communicate with herā¦
Next thing whenever you get these kinda of thoughts
Know this these are thoughts at the end of a dayā¦ neither a belief nor a truthā¦so whenever you have any kind of insecurity try to write it downā¦
And last but not most importantly your competition should be with yourself not with your partner or with anybody elseā¦ you will succeed in your own way so as sheā¦just have patience n keep working hardā¦
Thank you so much for your wise words. Iāll try my best to implement all these. It was very helpful
Hey there brother; watch this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huf1UlSh_LY
Hope it helps u in feeling better. Cheers!
Thank you so much fpr taking time and suggesting thisā¦ This did help.
Glad to hear that.
