Everything is getting worse…. she says she like me but
I don’t feel that…… we haven’t met yet but it’s been 2
yrs We are not in a relationship, she is not confirmed
for the thing it’s alright but it feels that she doesn’t
want to even talk to me… if i ask something then she
just relpies back but doesn’t asks back and reply late
it’s all that i am connected with her, i feel it’s only me
who is keeping up, messaging her, showing up
instantly, thinking every single time that this time it
won’t happen but it happens EVERY SINGLE TIME. i
am loosing self worth as if she has taken me for
granted… but I don’t want to lose her… this is messing
my mental health… don’t know what to dooo… ifeel i
am boring coz I don’t have much to tell her… my day is
boring too, what should i tell her. there is nothing
interesting in me… and I don’t understand what to do
to keep her close. i think we are drifting apart. i am
not good at communication…. but i overthink too much
too…. tell me what should i do…. and i know i can trust
her but still i have trust issues that probably she is out
cheating on me. that she is going to hurt me and i
will never be able to get over itt.… and then i feel it’s
better to die… no i am not going to suicide but just
that thought…
Mahesh @surmax
If it’s hurting you, it’s better to let go.
Trust yourself . And move on
You should put no one above your own self worth understand this.
I don’t know… i am really very confused… I sometimes think it’s happening bcoz i overthink alot, also bcoz i am not good at communicating…
and what if i am never able to walk out? I have tried that… but it didn’t work… but i am tired of this stuff repeating again n again… i know there are many fishes in the sea but isn’t there any other way to keep her and still not mind this things…
Mahesh @surmax
Focus on other things,
Make personals goal.
There’s a lot of interesting stuff to do in this world.
Listen to the strangest secret by earl nightingale.
Thank youu, i will listen to that piece for sure…But you didn’t really answer me?
Mahesh @surmax
Trust me, I’ve gone through the same thing.
There’s no way you’re going to get to keep her.
Even if you do, there’s no way you’re going to stop overthinking.
Nooo don’t scare me… I don’t want to lose her…
Mahesh @surmax
Man up buddy, you’ve really lost your self worth .
I feel sad ,you remind me of myself when I was in that position
But always remember all will be okay . Have the courage to move on.
If she’s no confirming and seeing someone else then she’ll say it’s not cheating
It’s a trap get out of it
You’re in a loop
Even if she is not seeing anyone, and busy somewhere? Like studies etc… then??
Ask her directly
Communication is the key
But also keep in mind when you communicate clearly you should have guts to hear unexpected things
So what should i basically start with… i just get numb when i try to talk to her… it’s not she is monster kind but she cooperates… it’s the problem on my side… like we are not in a relationship so i should not ask her that why is she replying me late, are you taking to someone else or are you not interested… ??
Try doing same with her
It takes time though
But it breaks my heart when i do that to her… like i am the villain… I can’t ignore her… i just can’t
Try to ask her what what she wants from this relationship like (conversation/attachment/support/just friendship/sex)
Any other idea? Coz it’s somewhat clear to me that she doesn’t want to have relationship now but has a scope for it in future…
How can i give you any other idea this may lead to bad decisions
You should ask her
I don’t think so… that giving an idea is a bad decision…
Ahhhhh
No one can help you in this case
You need to take stand for yourself
Okay so if you are saying do the same with her…
should i reply late… intentionally… and should not start conversation from my side…? Anything else…
Try ignoring her
No that’s the whole point… i need someone to guide me… I don’t want to hurt her… by saying anything mean… and something which is not out of the way…understand my point…
