Does anyone else have Birthday anxiety. I dont know what am i feeling as if everything is wrong nothing feels right. As if I am in pain my heart is breaking. Its my birthday tom and i dont have much people To be happy with me i am alone i dont know what should i do.

I also get birthday anxiety. It's almost certain that I cry on my birthday. Hate birthdays😶

Stress

Today is my birthday .
Many loved ones wished me .
But the msg for which i was waiting didn't come.
I am afraid as just 1.35 hrs are left for 2 march

Love

My birthday is coming soon and HONESTLY I don't want to celebrate my b'day but well I haven't gone out in a while and my bday could be a good get together with my friends and also, my mom wants me to go and celebrate. I am so confused😅 Can you please share your opinion, with a reason?
PS:- Please don't judge me.
 And I am a female, if it helps you decide
Please consider: 1. My whole family has fast on my bday so I can't celebrate at home.
                            2. I also want to keep fast but it is not mandatory
                            3. Let's just say none of my friends are real LOL but well those are the only 
                                friends.
                            4. I want to wear new clothes I bought and my b'day is perfect for that😂

Conflict

did you ever got any surprise casually? its not your Birthday nor any other special event. just casually, unconditionally from your loved ones? haha me neither 🙂

Acquaintance

Its my birthday today. Yay! 28 done!
I was sent a cake by my family - a wonderful chocolate mousse cake, I blew the candles and cut the cake all on my own at 12 with feeble claps heard on video call joined by my sister and mother. At the end of the day, it is the family that matters.
We have a provision called 'Special Day Leave' at work. You can choose to be on leave on your birthdays, anniversaries and the likes. I decided not to opt for it. Don't ask me why? Isn't it obvious? Why would I want to spend the rest of the day alone? Better be occupied with work (which I love, by the way) and ensure no such thoughts cross my mind. 
After getting free from work at about 7.30 (with complaints from fellow employees to leave early because it's 'your day'), I decided to head to the beach, one of my favourite places in the city. I sat there for hours and it was then that I realised I had never felt this alone, all my life. I always thought I might be alone but never lonely, but today might just be crossing the line. I got plenty of messages all through the day from people, which also made me realise these are the people who really matter even if we don't talk for days. While on the beach, I got a call from my family again,  wanting to check if I was not cooking today too. Like I said, at the end of day, its the family that matters. 

Lonely

Day 64 of writing journal entries.

I took the day off today so I could actually go and do some things, rather than sleep all day sick like yesterday. Well, I did stay at home, but I did commit to a lot of hobbies. I just wanted to have a chill day and I think I achieved that pretty nicely. :)

I got invited to a birthday party by one of my old friends. I’m debating whether I should go or not. I just feel a bit nervous is all… of seeing some of the people who will be there. I left my old school for a fresh start and I don’t like going back to my old friends because it’s a reminder of what the past was like. Some of my old friends are nice, the one hosting the party is nice, but some of the people at the party aren’t the best. I’ll have to think about it.

Today was nice and simple, not a bad day at all. I hope everyone else is having a good day as well. 🧡

Personal Growth

It's my BIRTHDAY!!!! 🎂🎁❤️🍷

Celebration

Birthdays don't have to be painful.
Last year I complained about the superficiality of these celebrations and the things I have to endure in order to keep the fake happiness of it, and I still hold it true this year. But something about this one feels hurtful to experience. I lose my composture just thinking about it even though I know it's not as bad as I portray it, I acknowledge the baggage in my body it's because of past experiences in this date and how this doesn't have to reflect it to this present. 
My heart screams begging for the abstinence of any fake congratulation, of any member of my distant family to suddenly appear for me when I don't reciprocate the way they do. When I'm scared to do so for my lack of contact in any way. I don't want any present that I will feel obligated to compensate later because I learned that these come with a price, literally and metaphorically. I want to repel any expenses on me that will cut something I need of my daily life since we will lack money. Greetings from friends and mates that I treated badly, I abandoned, I keep only for surviving sake and for the fear of truly being alone. A big congratulation for someone, me, I feel it doesn't deserve what it receives. Because all, all of this, will make a twist for the worst my mind tells me; family will have a conflict, my feeling of low self-worth will mockingly and proudly say "I told you so" when I have to reduce myself and accept people I hate and I'm indifferent come to greet me, when I feel obligated to do something for the other person even though I hate doing things for birthdays since it never comes from a place of sincerity and love. I know myself enough to know I don't want to receive anything I don't want to give later, or something that will build up the expectation of the other person when it comes to myself giving anything to them. But so as I believe these affirmations in feelings, I acknowledge aswell much of this is irrationality coming from a place of pure fear of hurting, getting hurt and vulnerability. And ironically, this is why I want to be grateful for this birthday; made me stab the knife on the ground and accept that even though I didn't have a negative perception of myself neither I punished me in horrible or depressive ways, this lack of conscious attention of my being made me swallow the influence of bad judgements of myself deep into my unconsciousness and here I stand, worrying about something that can be so trivial yet I scarr myself in these types of ways.

People care, that's something I can't control. Whether they care to make me know that they were there for me in a "special" day for love or for gain, it's still caring about it anyways. I can't control what happens to me outside in the world full of these concepts and obligations, or the people who follow it from whatever reason they believe. I can't judge that, I can only know what they show and I can take it or leave it. If it feels fake, feel grateful for the try and let it go. If it feels real, embrace it and do what you are; you can't help but be what and who you are, that has to be the point of a day that essentially focus on yourself. Gifts don't have to be repaid as the word means, and although I hate to say such a phrase I do feel sorry for myself in this aspect that the only way I learned, deep in my heart, to receive, is that I have to repay or consequences will come. If people give that's on them and for that I appreciate the trouble. I shouldn't be obligated to meet expectations neither give for pure pression, I hope no one feels this way with me. It's ok to celebrate I was born, I can occupy space in this Earth that gave birth to me and it's telling me to live. And if distant family comes back to me to congratulate me even though I'm absent to them... it's never too late. It should be as simple as starting somewhere and knowing they will understand; late would be when they or I are dead. For last, family conflicts it's something I also can't control but I can manage. I always know a way somehow and I'm grateful for that also.

It's been overwhelming, I couldn't blame myself to feel this way when I'm in contact with people physically after two years in isolation. It's difficult to pass the challenges one puts for oneself. I know mine is surrending, accepting and ending in embracing myself with the ugly and the mud that comes within it all. I will still hate the superficiality of the day though, since a mentality or, more so, a belief system doesn't change with just pure reflection; action is needed and for that I have years of experience to polish. Now I will just try to take it easy after letting it alllll go. Remembering to see with other eyes makes it easier, yet in the moment can be quite the challenge as I said earlier. I'm happy with these after tears were shredded and knowing I will come back, I will see my growing. Because like I repeat, birthdays don't have to be painful; my self doesn't have to be painful to enjoy even through it all, I can bother the thought of living and being in the chaotic order and I will so. 

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