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Can’t get attached to anyone. I really want to be in a relationship but I leave anyone I get a little close to and start having feelings. Got into a lot of relations but got commitment issues because I really hate myself. This is due to a previous relationship disaster that I couldn’t let go. I cry sometimes thinking about that because I blame myself although it was an accident. My friends talk shit about her and I want to kill them or really hurt them. I hate most of my friends. I’ve started making friends who will be positive for my mental health but there are so few and most of them live far. Got addicted to a lot of drugs. Sober now since lockdown started so that’s settled.
Did a lot of self-harm that I cannot say here. Ruined my career but I’ll sort that out.
I don’t know how to keep friends or a gf. I’m hoping that someone will suggest something that might help.

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Right now , there’s no way youll be able to keep a girlfriend. If you hate yourself, what makes you think anyone can like you? Youre just going to keep pushing them away. The first step in anything is selflove. You need to learn to love yourself fully. Love yourself, your mistakes, your flaws, everything. Once you learn to love and accept yourself, everything will come together slowly. You will start to attract the right people in your life. I never understood what people meant when they said you attract what you put out. After i went on the journey of loving myself i realized that the people in my lif were so toxic and so was i. But as i changed, i started to attract better people into my life. Everything will get better for you once you learn self love, I cant stress that enough… I hope the best for you.

pouria

how old r u?

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23

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Hi
Thank you for expressing urself
Thank you for sharing …

The first thing is ACCEPTANCE…

Accept whatever has happened.
Past is past
It is over…

Stop dwelling in past

Let bygones be bygones…

Your bright future awaits you…

But for that you will have to set urself free from all your past…

Stop blaming urself …

What is gone
What didnot work out
Wasnot meant to be…

Your past is blocking you…

Focus on present n future…

Let things happen naturally…

Donot force yourself into anything or anyone…

N regardinf friends

Many ppl donot have a single friend too

You atleast have few ppl whom you can call as ur friend

So consider yourself to be blessed…

You are stronger than you know
You will set everything alright…
Just be kind to urself
Just be patient
Have 100 % faith in urself…

GO WITH THE FLOW…

Take everything casually
Donot overthink…

Eat well sleep well

Look after urself properly…

May you come across the right ppl(friends as well as gf) in ur life n get all the love,affection n happiness you deserve…
Good luck
God bless…

N your life is very very precious.

Donot ruin it with drugs or self harm…
It is your life
Value it …

Take care.

Anonymous

Dear life never waits for anybody. Be you who you are. Self harm is not the ultimate solution to get out from these issues. If you need support then first prevent the addiction of drugs. Reply me if you need your self back again the happy one. 🙂

w

The thing is that I’ve been smoking and drinking from a very young age. But the tragedies boosted it. NVM I got my addictions under control, its just that whenever my assholes friends talk about my past in front of me, I feel so down. I’ve told them not to do so, even cut off half of them. But some you can’t get rid of. The only thing in that situation which helps is a blunt.

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@whoabhi
2 days ago
Can’t get attached to anyone. I really want to be in a relationship but I leave anyone I get a little close to and start having feelings. Got into a lot of relations but got commitment issues because I really hate myself. This is due to a previous relationship disaster that I couldn’t let go. I cry sometimes thinking about that because I blame myself although it was an accident. My friends talk shit about her and I want to kill them or really hurt them. I hate most of my friends. I’ve started making friends who will be positive for my mental health but there are so few and most of them live far. Got addicted to a lot of drugs. Sober now since lockdown started so that’s settled.
Did a lot of self-harm that I cannot say here. Ruined my career but I’ll sort that out.
I don’t know how to keep friends or a gf. I’m hoping that someone will suggest something that might help.

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Anonymous

2 days ago
Right now , there’s no way youll be able to keep a girlfriend. If you hate yourself, what makes you think anyone can like you? Youre just going to keep pushing them away. The first step in anything is selflove. You need to learn to love yourself fully. Love yourself, your mistakes, your flaws, everything. Once you learn to love and accept yourself, everything will come together slowly. You will start to attract the right people in your life. I never understood what people meant when they said you attract what you put out. After i went on the journey of loving myself i realized that the people in my lif were so toxic and so was i. But as i changed, i started to attract better people into my life. Everything will get better for you once you learn self love, I cant stress that enough… I hope the best for you.

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pouria
@pouria

2 days ago
how old r u?

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@whoabhi

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@kusum

2 days ago
Hi
Thank you for expressing urself
Thank you for sharing …

The first thing is ACCEPTANCE…

Accept whatever has happened.
Past is past
It is over…

Stop dwelling in past

Let bygones be bygones…

Your bright future awaits you…

But for that you will have to set urself free from all your past…

Stop blaming urself …

What is gone
What didnot work out
Wasnot meant to be…

Your past is blocking you…

Focus on present n future…

Let things happen naturally…

Donot force yourself into anything or anyone…

N regardinf friends

Many ppl donot have a single friend too

You atleast have few ppl whom you can call as ur friend

So consider yourself to be blessed…

You are stronger than you know
You will set everything alright…
Just be kind to urself
Just be patient
Have 100 % faith in urself…

GO WITH THE FLOW…

Take everything casually
Donot overthink…

Eat well sleep well

Look after urself properly…

May you come across the right ppl(friends as well as gf) in ur life n get all the love,affection n happiness you deserve…
Good luck
God bless…

N your life is very very precious.

Donot ruin it with drugs or self harm…
It is your life
Value it …

Take care.

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Anonymous

a day ago
Dear life never waits for anybody. Be you who you are. Self harm is not the ultimate solution to get out from these issues. If you need support then first prevent the addiction of drugs. Reply me if you need your self back again the happy one. 🙂

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@whoabhi

7h ago
The thing is that I’ve been smoking and drinking from a very young age. But the tragedies boosted it. NVM I got my addictions under control, its just that whenever my assholes friends talk about my past in front of me, I feel so down. I’ve told them not to do so, even cut off half of them. But some you can’t get rid of. The only thing in that situation which helps is a blunt.

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aabha
@aabha

3m ago
Try to balance everything. The beauty of this life is how you control every storms and drive in the ocean as all teach us to become a master of your boat. If you can’t get off then find someone better who deserve to listen you. Relationship is not about physical touch or cuddling always but the pure understanding and love. But in this modern era, true love is impossible to find. Wo kehte h na tb tak dhundho jb tak koi sahi na mil jae but iska mtlb ye ni ki aap kisi k feelings k sath khelte hue uske sath time pass kro. These things people needs to understand. Sab ek ni hote. And BTW kon kya bolta h just fuckk off yrr. Let them talk. You just find your inner peace. Find your happiness first but never forget about the feelings of others without hurting them live your life and enjoy this precious life. Take care 🙂