Can someone help me? what should I do?. I have found out that my partner had almost had sex with his friend/first crush . I have recently read his messages that the guy pulled him while lying, wearing only an underwear. he said that it was his first kiss and they almost had sex . I know it happened before I partnered him but we promised and confessed each other about our pasts. I felt like I was betrayed. I thought I was the first one. What should I do? I am breaking up with him. I already blocked him
Shashidhar @shashidhar117
Can you elaborate ? I didn’t get it fully.
But at the end of they if you feel like cheated then better to move on…
if your partner is not really into you then no need to worry about him
Before we became official. We confessed to each other’s past like whom we had sex with. You know just to keep us safe. He said that he’ s a virgin and I just found out that he almost had his first sex through his chats. I think they has because he said that the guy is lying and they kissed, well his first kiss, and he was already on topped of him. I dont know if they had sex since he said that it didnt happened since he received a call from someone. I dont know, maybe? Maybe they had or maybe not since they just lived in an apartment before. May they had sex many times . it happened in dec 2017 and we became official in june 2018 . So i feel like I was betrayed
Shashidhar @shashidhar117
" the guy is lying and they kissed, well his first kiss, and he was already on topped of him"
Is your partner bi-sexual ? Knowing sexual orientation is good actually.
And whatever he/she did before getting into a relationship is nothing you can bother. After committing, still, he continuing and cheating you then it’s clear betrayal. And you know what to do with betrayal.
yes he is. Can I
consider it betrayal even it happened before we became couple?
Shashidhar @shashidhar117
well, it’s not a betrayal. He might have scared to tell you this incident with another guy considering the stigma in society.
But if he continued even after you become a couple then it’s betrayal.
Still the decision is up to you. If you feel cheated, please move on.
There will be none to question you or even ask you, after all its all about feeling good and mental peace.
Good job for blocking him. Just let him stay in his place, and you stay in yours. Try to move on. Like try to talk with friend you haven’t talked to in ahwhile, or go shopping, make yourself feel good!
But he said that nothing happened between that person and they never became as couple. Should I still break up with him or just believe him?
To be honest, you should just break up. You already know what happend. He is not the right one for you. There is pretty much no excuse in his situation. All I can say is get him out of your life, and find somebody new.
Goldy @goldysanskar
Bro In my opinion that guy is her past and u are her present and if u really love her u should give him another chance. She also have strong guts to tell u about this because she trust u that u will understand. But if this incident has happened after she parterned with u then it will be cheating but this happened before u .
This is my opinion but rest is your decision
