Before 10 months I experienced the most terrible breakup of my life,he was a spinless man... could never take stand neither for himself nor for me...he never ever contacted me again. I tried for 6 months to fix things then I also gave up unwillingly.
 I am still stuck there mentally...I keep fantasizing, daydreaming about him,recalls all the wonderful and terrible things that happened,what could I have done differently...I have tried each and everything...gym, routine change, social media declutter, sharing it with my friends and I still cry myself to sleep. I have a super busy life but for now it's all online. Please help me!!!

Breakup

I don’t really know how I’m feeling, I only know that I’m tired like hell and that I really need someone to talk with. I feel an empty space inside me to be honest, and this is only happening because of him… I know that he’s loosing interest, and I’m pretty sure that he is starting to like another girl and that really scares me. Sometimes the only thing that I wanted was probably to disappear for a long time, and when I came back everything was back to normal.. 

3am Thoughts

So here is the thing. I m with a guy who is 5 years older than me. He is 26 i am 21 I m with a guy from past 4 5 months. Actually we started talking over call. Met on hinge then started talking. Then I moved to new city big change. He was living in different city. I never wanted him to come from south to north for me only cause i was not sure about him. But he came just for me. I used to find reasons to dislike him ( his height, his looks) but i end up getting close and close. Now i m living with him from past 1 month. I never named this relationship or him my bf. One day I asked him randomly that till what age he can delay his marriage. He said 2 years probably and I said i can't get married till next 6 years atleast. He said i blv there should be a certain age till one should get married before 30. His family wants him to get married but he doesn't want to. He said my family is ok me not getting married now but it will impact them after 2 years and i can't delay that anymore. I was crying alot that why did u start everything and put so much efforts when u were never that futuristic. He said i thought u already know and never cared. I hv alot of benefits he being in my life. Ease and everything. My frnds says be with him . We don't know future but i am thinking if i am tis much attached what will happen after 2 years. What should I do?


Love

My boyfriend is very controlling and critical. He has been giving me the silent treatment for a full 24 hours now, following a disagreement about driving at the speed limit. he thinks everyone should drive at/under the speed limit, which makes sense in a perfect world, but I was explaining that driving under the speed limit can be rude and dangerous. I wasn’t about to agree with him just to move onto a different topic. I said we should agree to disagree and that’s when the silence commenced. 
Last night he went and slept in another room. Usually i give him some space, and then start trying to get him to talk to me which he usually resists for a while. I haven’t even tried talking to him since he started, except a few cordial words that he pretty much ignored. Now I’m just crying in a part of the house where he’s unlikely to hear me feeling absolutely miserable. I hate it when he ignores me but I know he does it to punish me and waits me for me to bend and apologize first. I don’t know that I even have anything to apologize for but I’m usually so desperate that I do. I don’t know what to do. This is the third time in the past week. I’m just so exhausted and miserable.
Is this kind of thing emotionally abusive? I just need help. 

Emotional Abuse

Hey please help I liked a boy and he don’t like me but after something we started fwb and came close by physically and emotionally both of the way and he said he will try to develop feeling for me but also says to try no be attached to me because he will not feel for me he know that and after sometime he stops fwb and said he is not feeling good because I have feeling and he don’t I don’t want to use you . And he is my friend also and we share group of friends he talks to me everyday as a friend he always send hi to me . But it is very hard for me but he said try to move on but I can’t
Please tell me by giving space and time he will feel for me ? Should I wait
Because he don’t send msg to everyone everyday he basically don’t like to talk



One Sided Love

I'm very lonely.... i don't have close friends to talk about what i really feel but i do have few people whom i talk to once in a while. Forever i have been alone when i was 16 i got into a relationship with my school friend. It was first time dating for both of us so it was fun.
I was already having problem making friends after i got into relationship i stopped putting efforts also this made me very dependent on my boyfriend. My relationship slowly turned toxic. He did a lot of things which is unacceptable. The things slowly grew from scolding to using cuss words from that to physical assault this happened numerous times then i realized what was happening to me wasn't right I tired to break up several times but my lonely ass accepts him every time he comes back apologizing but the next day itself he will do same things again. He took my weakness for granted he knows i am overly dependent on him so he cheated on me and i found about it after a huge crying stage i forgave him again and again he tried to cheat on me not valued the forgiveness i gave him. HE DOESN'T SEEM GUILTY ALSO. Yesterday i said him i want to break up since im not happy in this relationship he did not even reply for it. I'm still stuck in this relationship just because i can't move on.
I want some friends to talk about my feelings during my move on period that is the main reason im here

im also a anxious person who has family burden and problems getting out of this toxic relationship will help me focus on what really is important to me

Lonely

I communicated like my therapist told me to instead of holding it inside and now I wish I hadn’t. 


A long long time ago in Highschool I had a crush on a boy. We started hanging out and then slept together a few times and saw each other often.  

Then months later we got into a fight and stopped seeing one another.  This is age 17


Then he told my mutual friend that he had just wanted to sleep with me and I wanted to seriously date him and he was like nah. 

I felt embarrassed and not good enough. 


Years passed and he started talking to me and seemingly being really sweet and trying very hard.  Since Highschool after I grew up I became a very attractive woman. I model for clothing brands and have self esteem issues but I know other people consider me attractive and he has said he thinks I’m super beautiful.  He’s 31, I’m 29.

He asked why I didn’t want to go on a date with him and I decided to be honest like the therapist said. I brought up the past and said I was scared it would happen again and that it embarrassed me and made me upset. 

That was my main concern.   He read it and didn’t respond and it’s been a full day. We usually talk every day.  

I guess I ruined it.  It’s fine because I would have worried he was still doing that the entire time anyway and I feel like no reply is sort of confirming that for me.

I don’t want to hookup with anyone. I want a real relationship and I have trust issues. 
He had broke my trust before so I think it’s valid to say. 

I’m a little sad, I feel rejected now and it sucks.
Should I not have brought it up?

Anxiety

Hello 
I am writing for the first time so please correct me if I am wrong. 
I am not feeling good. I am sad and hurt. And the reason is that I thought the person I cherished and value the most does value me and respect me but I was wrong that person just kicked out me from his life. Without any reason.I considered that person as my best friend but that guy judged me and called me ugly I know I should have left him and never looked back but I grew so attached that now it's hurting me a lot. I am feeling more sad by realizing the fact that he doesn't even care and here I am feeling sad and lonely I think he didn't even considered me as his friend I was just a last option as he always said and I made him my priority. I know I should be angry but all that I feel is sadness. 

Hello dear community
I wanted to share something strange happened to me today.
I am 30y female. After 10 years, I got to know from my classmate that he always liked me and loved me. He came up with a marriage proposal. He said he was waiting for the right time. 
I liked him but not in love because we were from the same area. 
He was eager to convince me that I was with the wrong guy 10 years ago. (I know that and broke up with him after 1year). But he kept nagging on that point that I did a huge mistake. He also said to me that he would have slapped me for not falling for the other guy.
I did not like this slapping thing I took it as a red flag but somehow I am also thinking may be I am being very harsh on just some words. May be he said it out of love only just for saying.
I know it must be difficult for him to see me with another man at that time and I understand that his emotions are pure, otherwise he would not have told me that he has always loved me after a decade.. 

Please suggest if I am wrong to turn him down? 

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