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Anyone up for talk? I need to listens to someone elses view on something…

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Go on

@daisy202

Okay. I helped one of my long distance relative to get married. She was having difficulties to get married. Out of sympathy, i helped her to pass on my husbands friends bio data. But as soon as she got the bio data, she absolutely ignored me like i never existed. She even didn’t call me after confirmation of wedding. No invitation from herself. Her mother did call but i didn’t attend as my sister was sick. So it has been 7/8 months since her marriage, i just cant get over how she ignored my good intentions. No gratitude towards me, no nothing. I cant even sleep over thia issue. How do i cope with THIS? Or im being too needy?! Please tell me what you thing of this situation…

KIngCade @kingcade

Hey

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Anonymous

Okay. I helped one of my long distance relative to get married. She was having difficulties to get married. Out of sympathy, i helped her to pass on my husbands friends bio data. But as soon as she got the bio data, she absolutely ignored me like i never existed. She even didn’t call me after confirmation of wedding. No invitation from herself. Her mother did call but i didn’t attend as my sister was sick. So it has been 7/8 months since her marriage, i just cant get over how she ignored my good intentions. No gratitude towards me, no nothing. I cant even sleep over thia issue. How do i cope with THIS? Or im being too needy?! Please tell me what you thing of this situation…

pS @ps01

Heyy

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Anonymous

Okay. I helped one of my long distance relative to get married. She was having difficulties to get married. Out of sympathy, i helped her to pass on my husbands friends bio data. But as soon as she got the bio data, she absolutely ignored me like i never existed. She even didn’t call me after confirmation of wedding. No invitation from herself. Her mother did call but i didn’t attend as my sister was sick. So it has been 7/8 months since her marriage, i just cant get over how she ignored my good intentions. No gratitude towards me, no nothing. I cant even sleep over thia issue. How do i cope with THIS? Or im being too needy?! Please tell me what you thing of this situation…

pS @ps01

Why does it matter if they are happy let them be look at it this way if they want to have a divorce in the future they’ll blame you or she’ll blame you for it so it’s better she does not show gratitude rn .

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Anonymous

I didnt even receive a thank you from her. I feel so used and stupid for helping her honestly.

pS @ps01

It’s okay to feel these things

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Anonymous

Every night i try to deal with these emotional issues with God but ibdont know what to ask from Him… Should i curse her? Will that bring me peace? It wont… I know, should i forgive her? Let her get away with what she Did?.. I feel so bad for me… I cant stop it… The feeling keep crushing back to me like waves…

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Anonymous

Calm down. Its normal, people are often non-grateful you did what you felt right and they did what they felt right just give yourself a pat that you’ve made a jodi and stop overthinking you’re fine and you did a great job

@daisy202

Thanks… for listening. I hope these simple feelings were easier on me.

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Anonymous

Don’t worry. I’m an overthinker too I know how small things affect us but its okay to feel things and move on when sometimes you don’t know why you feel certain way. Aage dekha jayega

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Shivay @shivay2595

Heeyyyyy are you alright…
I read your comments.
Don’t worry not everyone will be grateful towards you. Not everyone knows what gratitude is.
They just look out for themselves only. And as soon as their work is done they never think about the other person’s feelings.
And just try to think it like this. You helped her because you have such a beautiful heart. And when you helped her yoy didn’t expected thank for her. So it’s just that you are hurt because she doesn’t have basic etiquettes and manners…
And you did all you could to help her. I’m really grateful to you.
God sent you as his messenger so that you can help her in his behalf. You have done such a beautiful act of kindness.
Just keep on believing in yourself…
All the more power, love and peace to you ✨✨

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Anonymous

Thank you. I feel listened. Can you tell me how should deal with the scattered feelings i m going on with right now? Should i accept and move on? And will tgos acceptance will effect my self esteem? My growth as person?

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Shivay @shivay2595

Heyyy.
You never ever need to thank me.
You just keep on smiling and be happy always will be all the thanks I’ll ever need.
And what scattered feelings you are having.
Secondly I think you should accept it as your good deed that you were there for someone when their life was in shambles.
And as far as ego is there. You should maintain that ego but not in your daily life.
Whenever you meet her family then bring that ego. Don’t give them any attention. Just stop talking to them at all. Don’t talk to her or her mother or any immediate family member. You’ll feel so relaxed.
You don’t have to worry at all I’m always here, right besides you as a friend. Always 🫂

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Anonymous

I think you are right. I have thought about it as well.ignoring her presence and her family altogether but i actually went to her parents house on a holiday occasion but she wasn’t there. Like i said she ignored me like i didn’t exist. It was few days after her wedding. Now, as i aware how her behaviour has hurt me, i m willing to ignore her eternity with my every bit of will. I need peace, i need it more than anything. Anyone wondering whybdid i went to he parents house, her parents are my long distance uncle aunty, she is the cousin of my brother’s wife. So to maintain a good impression as representatives from my brother’s side i had to attend but i willing to change the pattern if the situation requires her involvement… Something i sould have done before.

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Shivay @shivay2595

I totally understand that we gave to many a times do things and go to relatives because we just can’t say no as it will affect others more…
I’m totally with you, what you did was absolutely right. No need to think twice about that…
But now since you know how she is just try and make some excuses and avoid going.
See your peace and your growth matters the most.
YOU matter the most my friend.
YOU are the most beautiful and precious creation of this universe.
YOU deserve all the best things this universe has to offer you and many more.
So loving Yourself before anyone else is the best thing you can ever do.
Your self respect is more important that your brother’s wife’s some cousin. She didn’t even cared to say thank to you. And here you are wasting your time on that useless fellow.
Seize the day my friend. You have such a lovely family. Spend time with them. Love them with all you have. Take care of them and yourself.
Stop thinking about that worthless being.
You are way more stronger than yoy know

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