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Any INFJs out there?
I just wanna understand myself better, I thought it would be nice to interact with someone online, just to know that I’m not alone in the way I think, and the way I go about things.

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Anonymous

Okay I’m not infj…
But any ISFJs here??

Anonymous

hey there!
am an infj too!
you’re not alone buddy

Anonymous

What?
I’m ISFJ

Anonymous

Wat is infj? And isfj?

Anonymous

Third person
It is determined after u take a personality test

Anonymous

I am INFP-T… god knows what that means😂
They say i am more of a mediator

Anonymous

Read about it… It’ll help you!!

Anonymous

I read it… 😂 doesn’t do any good to me… fucked up as ever…

Anonymous

And honestly i have a really fickle personality… certain traits and opinions which determines the personality keeps changing in me… so these tests dont really do me that good… i took one when i was younger… it was different than it is now

Anonymous

I understand. I agree that these tests may not define us perfectly all the time. Just thought of giving it a go.

Anonymous

okay so basically INFJ are really understanding and creative people with very sensitive vision, usually they are Calming aura, Always funny and witty, Filled with emotions, Constantly curious and well-read, They like jobs with a purpose, They need alone time too, Great learners and super thinkers
And you can spot the as, they are Good writers, Love of travel, Image issues, Strong listeners, They love coffee shops, Frugal and focused, Either focused on being single or monogamous, Always ready to say something, musical, Looking clean is important, They have plenty of little rituals and consistency, Slow in the dating game, They love touch, Very picky when choosing a partner, Odd ways of organizing things, To the point, Experts at ghosting, Strong sense of independence, Fun to date, They have specific things that bother them, They try their best not to stand out despite their quirks, They like to journal and most important “all or nothing”
in short they are typically good people but naturally :)

Anonymous

Wow! I think you defined them perfectly! I’m an INFJ, and honestly, all of them are hold true for me!

Anonymous

Are you an INJF too?

Anonymous

yes i am :)

Anonymous

Since this is an anonymous platform, would you like to talk more about what’s it like being an INFJ?

Anonymous

why not! i would love to

Anonymous

Okay like we are the most misunderstood people i think! like we have variety of thinking and which are sometimes contradicting, and people have strong point again us! this is worst and because we think a lot and in different ways like we try to understand every situation with every possible perspective, that reflects in our personalities too and that make us a very different person in different situations around! there is a lot to say like every topic I wrote above! In short we value people and emotions and every smallest of small things around us :)

Anonymous

I totally agree! I mean, people always say like I’m so serious and I never laugh, but it’s not like that. Even I like having meaningful conversations with people. Even I laugh my heart out, but only with a few selected people. My sister says I have a good sense of humor. I like making people laugh, I really want to spread so much joy and positivity around. But my thoughts get too dark sometimes.
I don’t have a lot of friends. And most of them just approach me whenever they need help or anything like that. But you know, for me, being friends with someone, I care about their life, as to how they’re doing, are they okay, etc. But people always talk to me whenever they need favors. I never see friendship just as a way of taking favors.
Also, I got called a lot of names in my school. But over the years, I’ve got used to it you know. It doesn’t affect me anymore. But what still hurts me everyday is how me parents react. They always call me weak, defective, unsocial, etc. I know I’m a bit emotional and sensitive, but it’s hard when your own parents put you down everyday. My parents really really make it so hard for me. I mean, I really am so sorry for being this way, but I can’t change myself, can I? I don’t know if people can change. Every day, they yell at me and abuse me, and if I get teary about it, they just say I’m a failure and loads of other things.
I’m so so so sorry, I don’t mean to take this conversation in a negative way, but… I’m so sorry… I just wanted to know if others like me get treated like this… so that, I know, that for people like me, this is common, and I don’t have it take it to my heart the next time they treat me that way… because I tend to hold onto their words, and they really make me feel so bad about myself. I’m kinda immune to my relatives or colleagues saying that, but I still can’t stand parents. I wish I could live alone, but yeah, I think it’ll take me a few more years to completely become independent.
Um, I feel like I overthink a lot, like a lot! Sometimes, my mind doesn’t stop. It just goes on thinking about various possibilities. I overthink even the slightest scenario. Does it happen to you too?
True, we change according to our situations. Even though I keep to myself most of the time, even my turn for a public speaking event comes up, I’m pretty okay with. Even though I think that I would screw up, I manage quite okay.
I don’t understand myself at times. I feel like my mind could explode any minute.
I have a hard time trusting people. I remember being so popular in junior school, but I don’t know, over the years, I just became so quiet. I always fear being judged, so maybe I guess that’s why I don’t make friends easily.
They always broke my trust you know. I still can’t get over it.
Pardon me for making it this long, and sorry about my negativity.
I feel a bit better after chatting with you. When I read that INFJs make up only 1-2% of the world’s population, I was so shocked. But thank God, at least I had a conversation with one of them. Not so lonely after all.
Make you have a wonderful week ahead of you. Take care and stay safe!

Anonymous

hey don’t be sorry, i love love reading, but nobody writes me! this long para made me smile at first glance and then again after reading it whole so yeah i am too very sensitive in friendship and relationships and i had hard time trusting people too! i am very quite and calm in my outside world like in college and relatives and the world but i am like the most annoying one at home! my parents do complain a lot because of this multiple responses at same time! but i reply like “me sudhar gayi, toh aapke ghar se entertainment khatam ho jaayega” toh basically i make every sitiuation light by changing it in humor and like i am very emotional and serious outside but at home i am bold and strong, doesn’t express much, don’t show much love and like in friend i am the most expressive one, i myself is confused in this behaviour of mine… and yeah things are too much complicated for me too, like i love spending time alone and i am happy with it but people around me are like are you deppressed and i am like no! 🤷‍♀ i am always on leave me alone mode and then i think why i don’t have people, i love living alone but i crave to talk to someone! i don’t understand what i want but uk i do what i want in that time i just do it! and like my world is just very much different from other i see the world like no one else do, if i am at a place i am more like to see small insects, water drops, butterflies, small flowers, grass, leaves, wind, tress, skies! i love observing life! i don’t know but i just love being like this! i am a writer too! i observe people, like their lives i can feel what they are feeling at there place, i love reading people i live in 1920s, people say i think i am boring also beacuse they can’t see whats going on in my mind!
i am glad meeting you too! have a great day :)
love your way!

Anonymous

Honestly, I never really shared so much with anyone before. But I am glad to have found this platform. Pardon me for the late reply though.
Wow, I’m so happy for you, I mean, I am glad you have such a nice family. May you always stay happy! ^_^
Same here. My own personality confuses me at times. I love nature too. Yes, and observing life! You know, I feel so mesmerized by nature. Whenever I look at trees, it’s amazing to think how they grew from such a tiny seed, and it took so many years for them to grow that tall; even the clouds, I mean, just forming from a single drop of water and then… come to think of it, I dream about how big the universe is, and, we’re just so teeny weeny compared to it! I really wanna think different, just have positive thoughts all the time, be optimistic, make ppl laugh, but yeah, right now, life seems really difficult and bad due to some stuff.
Woah, that’s wonderful! A writer! No, you’re not boring. Just because we don’t talk all the time doesn’t mean we’re boring. We’re good listeners.
You know, sometimes I think, maybe I’m born in the wrong era too. Now-a-days, life is just so fast paced, and most of us are just running a rat race. I really wanna slow down, take everything in, but it’s not possible you know.
Right now, I’m just praying so that I can clear a few exams, get a job and become independent. I really wanna stay away from drama and unwanted negative comments. Anyways, I shouldn’t talk too about negative stuff.
Thank you so much! I’m so very grateful to have chatted with someone whom I could connect with. Honestly, it’s my first time, and I feel blessed.
Um, if it’s not too much to ask, maybe we could keep in touch, and you know, chat once in a while, I would appreciate that very much.
Take care, stay safe and may you always be happy!