Am i a bad child if i dont know if i have any kind of feeling towards my father? i know that he loves me its just he cant control his bad temper most of the time since i was a child and done unreasonable stuffs in result. 

Family

My dad is the worst person I know. The scum of the earth kind. He is an abusive man who does not deserve a wife or kids. I am torn between showing him his place or not bursting his bubble and letting him live out his remaining years. 


Yes, u r my father. No one can change that. I don’t hate u but I still can’t forgive u and I don’t wanna hear anything from u.

Trigger warning! I'm literally out right now cause my dad yelled at me.😃He has issues with his siblings and then he express his anger towards me and my family. I won't accept another stupid apology from him! I won't go home tonight,I'll see my uncle. I want him to see what he had done to me. I also need him tho for money. FML.

Anger Issues

My relationship with my father is becoming confusing. I have always found patriarchal society very annoying, and seeing my father scolding my mom, while she does all her work, telling me to learn household chores, or telling me to not get a tattoo, or probably telling me to do something because I am girl, and I am supposed to do it, has made me a rebel. I don't listen to whatever he says. I avoid him, I can't sit with him and listen him talking about such things. He is a very good person, but just the patriarchal part of my father, and his anger scares me so much. I don't even talk to him because I am scared that he would scold me if I don't agree with his viewpoint. 
When I don't listen to him, he says that maa ne bigaad dia hai, and zubaan chalne laggyi hai. 
I don't know what to do

Parenting

I absolutely cannot stand people who cuss . This is solely because of my father. It is quite normal for him to use cuss words in his language in front of me. I understand when u use it when u are extremely angry or frustrated but he uses them as a normal part of his vocabulary as if it is normal that too on the top of his lungs( he speaks extremely loudly). I have seen his friends only being So careful Abt not using cuss words around their children no matter how angry or how much they hate someone so why can't my father. He can control his language when he is around other family members like my grandparents. He can cuss Abt anything and anyone and doesn't seem or want to understand the other person's perspective (it's mostly outsiders)  It seems like my mother doesn't like it too but she doesn't say a word to him . I mean she should be the one saying something to him when I as a child can't. I can't tell him to watch his language we don't have that kind of relationship + he is a typical Indian man. I get soooooo mad and frustrated. Pls help we how can I not get mad or affected or do something on personal level.

Um so I get angry at my dad a lot and I can't keep it in and if I burst out I am Afariad of what might happen
That's all ig


I feel like I've lost the bond I had with my mom once. We were the closest anyone could ever be. I was the closest to her out of her three children. My father was abusive, violent and unavailable emotionally and a Casanova. He has several relationships in the past with several women and still does, probably. He made my mother's life miserable but she put up with him to raise us. I'm a 21 yo and my my siblings are 19 and 15. He wasn't even a very good father. We aren't on talking terms as of now because of the silliest thing which makes no sense but that's not the point right now. A couple years back my mother met this man and really connected with him. She asked for my permission to have a relationship with him and I felt like she deserved it. She deserved someone to appreciate her and to fill that gap of a partner in her life. So I encouraged her to go ahead and be friends with him. That man is married and has two kids. I always warned my mom to never meddle in his family and be that woman because she knows how if felt to be on the receiving end. Anyway, one thing led to another and she became really close with that person AND somehow his family. The family doesn't know about their relationship. Anyway, shortly after she got close with him, she changed. I mean, the way she talked or behaved or the things she said or did or the way she made decisions, completely changed. She started consulting everything with him before making any decisions. Soon he got in on all our life decisions and she even made me talk to him. Initially it was fine but he started meddling too much in our personal life problems. Gradually he started making sexual jokes with me and I was uncomfortable but I didn't say anything because my mom was so smitten by him. It wasn't late before he started making sexual remarks about my body and how sexy I am or my curves or asking me about my sex life with my boyfriend. He made weird indirect comments about my boyfriend and it made me very very uncomfortable and I couldn't stand it anymore. I didn't wanna ruin things for my mother so I stopped speaking to him. Blocked him and cut him off. My mother started forcing me to talk to him after a while because he used to ask her why I wasn't talking and apparently she couldn't see anything in front of his will. I told her I'm not comfortable and begged her to stop forcing me. My mom held this as a grudge against me I think and ever since then she has been so distant. I mean, I feel like I lost her. She is so invested in him and his family and cares so less for us, whom she sacrificed so much for back in the time. She went to attend a friend's anniversary on the same day as my sister's birthday, and then forced her to accept a very expensive ipad that man giften her, which when my sister refused because it is ridiculous to accept such expensive gifts from people, my mother didn't talk to her. On her birthday. On my brother's birthday which was two weeks after this, she caused a scene because my unavailable dad decided to show up and to avoid drama we decided to have one meal out with our dad and second with our mom. She threw a tantrum and after we returned from our meal with dad, she only took my brother out and not us because we suggested the plan (which she agreed to before lmao).
The point of mentioning the whole birthday fiasco is that, about a month and a half back, it was that man's daughter's birthday for which my mother flew in one day in advance to surprise her. I mean? I just don't know what to say. The covid situation was terrible back then and she still traveled just for his daughter, leaving her own two kids back at home(I am stuck in another city) alone with their 75-yo grandmother. When the time to return came, she suddenly started caring about covid and how traveling is unsafe and has been staying with him and his family since then. I wanted to go back home, she bought me the ticket, and then two days later she called me and made 5 other people from my family to call me and ask me not to go because of covid. I would have agreed if she hadn't gotten me the ticket 2 days ago. But guess what? That man told her to stop me, because (I know it's unsafe to travel during covid and I do not encourage that at all) if I went home, everyone will start questioning why she can't? When I questioned her, she made me talk to him and my blood boiled at the sound of his voice. I hung up and my mother called me back to scream at me and we got into a fight and I told her directly that he made sexual advances at me and she pretended to care for a day but she's still there, still very happy with him and his kids and I don't think she's gonna give him up even though he tried to harass her own daughter. I don't understand. This is not the woman I called my mother. I mean, I don't recognize her anymore. I was so close to my mother and now she's just some woman who doesn't even ask if I ate or not? It is all my fault. 

Harassment

It's frustrating when you try to be a good son for your father but whatever you do is not enough. It never was, no matter how hard I'm trying it's like I'm always doing something wrong but I can't think or understand what and it's killing me....

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