After my last relationship ended in March 2020, I decided not to hurry into relationships anymore, as I had actually jumped right into that relationship after my previous relationship. My ex said that I’d find someone pretty soon and get into a relationship again and I promised him, that I won’t… and I haven’t. Since March 2020, I’ve had new friends, guys mostly after 2-3 months start to want to take the friendship to a next level and I’ve never felt like getting into a relationship and “just wanting to be friends” never felt enough for the guy and have been blocked by 2guys. They said they couldn’t be “just friends” because they had feelings for me. It hurts to lose friends. Then another guy I considered a good friend, kindof broke my trust and after a fight went to the next level of distributing my number on omegle resulting in me getting constantly disturbed by random calls and messages every now and then.
It’s now Sep 2021, I dont miss my ex that much but sometimes I recollect our good times, he was a great guy. We dont talk anymore, but I wish I could tell him I kept the promise.
The reason I wrote this is because is feel lonely sometimes, i dont have that many friends, not that I would want to have coz I’ve pretty much cocooned up during lockdown and pretty much hate people. But recently I was thinking of having someone to kindof talk to as a friend maybe and stupid me installed tind*r to make “friends”. Well maybe I just want something casual. But I’m not the “casual” type. I cant really connect coz now I have trust issues. It’s really complicated. I want to talk to someone but I know nobody cares and so I just am writing this here. I dont want sympathy or anything just gotta be stronger alone.
And to all those people stronger alone out there, kudos to u guys too.
Well same here, never had any relationship but am kind a falling in love with someone who cannot revert the same love. I have installed apps too to find friends but no one is loyal everyone just wants to hook up. I come here to share my feelings too because atleast these beautiful strangers can understand it. I always wanted someone to talk too, but its life right people come and go.
Hey I’d just tell u to be very careful about who you give your attention and time to, u know, not everyone is worth it! Be careful ❤️
And yep, nobody can be forced to stay everyone has to leave someday or the other. But when u are with the right ones, I guess it would just feel right.
Your friend was a bastard who shared your number and girl you don’t owe your ex anything,I mean it’s none of his business if you are dating someone or not.
Be in a relationship only when you find someone worthy of it and yourself ready for it and those boys who took your friendly nature for something else…well fuck them
You definitely don’t need such men who pretend to be your friend first but are desperate to get into your pants and not all men are like this so healthy friendship is possible.i also want you to take a look at your behaviour… sometimes we unknowingly do things that look like you want something more than friendship
Thanks. I needed this. Yes i dont owe anything to my ex but it kindof helped me not make an ass of myself.
And about the point about keeping the behaviour-check u know,I considered that, i started thinking am I being too over friendly? Or am i oversharing? So now I am so closed off and distant to people it sometimes seems wrong. I have happened to run out of luck on healthy friendships for now i guess. Maybe later a change of environment will bring in new friends.
I can understand, happened with me too in my late teenage and I also started thinking like you,but currently I have a few male friends with whom I share a platonic bond. I hope you also get people worthy of you until then have faith in yourself and god
Finding guys for friendship is much more difficult than for relationship… Neither all guys are that mature nor they believe in friendship with girls as they already have guy friends…
Yeah thats kinda sad but okay I’ve come to terms with it…
Happy for you😊
