After being alone my whole life I found my first true friend that eventually became my boyfriend. He could literally read my eyes. He was the only person that had my back in this new city. My friend, my boyfriend, my family he played each role for me. He could never even think of hurting me. He did so much for me that I could barely do for him. He never told me No for anything, he was the person who used to take care of my little little things and remember each minute detail of what I told him. We started dating in August 2021 he literally was the perfect person I ever had and most importantly I could trust despite having serious trust issues and high emotional instability. He calmly handled my every mood. It is always said that trust the actions not the words so I did trusted the actions and thought I found my man.
But the things are changing on his part he says he has problems in his life so he is unable to give his 100%. But the fact is Even I suffer from my problems and tried not to mention them so I don’t put my stress on him. One day I needed him in my lows I needed him just to be with me and he showed up for a certain time in which he ate his food without bothering that his girlfriend hasn’t eaten since morning and he went back . When I told him that I needed him at that time and I already told him that he has to be with me I am feeling very low. When I confronted him he said that I should understand his problem and it’s my fault . But I don’t find him like this in front of others. He is the same with them that he used to be before. He said that he can’t take care of me 24×7. And that I could leave him if I want. He come to meet me and then boasts like he has did such a great thing by meeting me. But I think he should meet me because he wanted me too.He is changed now and he doesn’t accept this. I don’t know what to do? I explain him my feelings so he could know how much all this hurts me . He bothers for a second next time he is doing the same. He clearly says that he can’t handle my moods my attention seeking attitude and can’t give all this he can’t be the way he earlier was and if I want to leave him for this then I should.
Find someone who’s care about u
I don’t know if it’s toxic or not I just want the things like they used to be back then.
I did he says that at this time he can’t. He doesn’t understand that everyone else in his life holds the same position that they always had but it’s only me whom he is letting down because of his stress.
I thought to do the same and here I am hurting each day with tears dripping off my eyes everytime and busy convincing others that my eyes are watering because of contact lenses 🙂
I’m sorry but that’s how things work now. No one stays forever. My story is kinda similar to yours so now just accept the fact that nothing can be done atp and move on girl don’t hurt yourself like i did.
He says he doesn’t want to let me go. But as it is hurting me so much therefore I should leave him. I even left him for a time then he came back the next day saying that he doesn’t want to live like this without me in his life.
Girl trust me just walk away. My shiii is exactly the same as yours. You’re gonna end up hurting yourself badly like i did. Ik that 1% hope of things fixing won’t let you move on but it’s not worth it
Have you asked what’s going on in his life?? Maybe something he needs help with and something that he can’t deal so behaving like that? Since u dont want it to end u should try to make it work . And maybe he is showing u because he is comfortable with you? .
I hope it gets better for u 💜
Ya that’s what he says exactly. He is facing hard time in dealing with his issues and it’s is out of my hand too. And he told only me about all that problem. But I too have my lows and he knew I don’t have anyone in this city apart from him. To whom would I turn up then?
I understand your side too but hard time doesn’t knock before coming. It’s just really low phase for both of you. You should be there for each other. One day he was there when u were down isn’t it just fair u do the same? Everyone has their ups and downs so it’s only valid we understand each other . And as of you depending on just one person does that to you .it gets kind of toxic at a point Don’t loose yourself too much though. Find new people at least make few friends. So u can at least turn up to someone if not him.
People change all the time the only person who sticks with you is yourself. I think you should let him go you don’t deserve to be treated like that we women tend to forgive and move on when we like someone that’s the first mistake we do. Every time we forgive and try to forget the next time it’ll hurt even more. In no condition the person has the right to hurt you no matter what he’s going through especially when you love them. I feel like you should just get over him it’ll hurt a lot but you’ll survive it’s better to let go now .
Its okk time will heal every wound of urs just trust the procedure🤗🤗🤗
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Hi girl, I know it is hurting you a lot. Oh are watching him go away from you. But believe me, men don’t want to leave so easily IF they loved truly.
He is dealing with something he can’t say.
I wish you get back what you found in him and you guys are back to each other again!.
Heyy… It is saddening to hear what you are going through… but hey he isn’t at least hiding things from you, not completely at least. Maybe he’s dealing with it in his own way and wouldn’t want to burden you with all that as you already have your plate full. While he’s dealing with it, he’s still able to somehow meet you even for a while if not the same way as before which is a good thing… let him take some time, give him that space to deal with it while also assuring of him that you got his back in case if he ever needs… wish you guys get back together the way it was… Also, try to have some friends wherever you are, spend time with them… leaning on one person for everything would only make matters not so easy
You’ve been through a lot and going through it. I know it’s hurting & exhausting at the same time , but you know the best thing you can do is know your worth & not fight for his attention anymore. If he is the one, he will reflect on his actions ; you’ve done enough.
More power to you 💙